By the way, I’m not letting go of the tight shorts.
I plan to keep them because:
1) They still sort of fit.
2) They help me remember to reframe my thinking – not about them, but about me.
3) They remind me that Margaret, the inner critic inside my head, does not get to boss me around. I can acknowledge her presence and “guidance,” but I don’t have to believe or obey.
The shorts are tight not because they shrunk; they are tight because I had gained some weight over the past year.
That’s a neutral fact.
What I want to make it mean depends entirely on me, not Margaret, not what the outside world may think.
I can give myself permission to ask questions like:
- What kind of story do I want to write about it?
- How do I want to think about the weight gain?
- Do I want to do anything about it, if at all?
If I weren’t aware of all the self judgement and negative thinking, I would for sure feel disappointed, embarrassed and ashamed. I would have bought anything and everything Margaret offered my mind to think and believe.
Then I would lose myself in a pity party, possibly eat mindlessly to numb any negative emotions (more guilt and shame), and feel even worse about myself.
With the awareness, however, I can decide what to make of the situation (tight shorts due to weight gain). I can:
- accept the fact and recognize that I must have needed to do all the things to take care of myself (pandemic related, possibly?).
- remember all the delicious foods I ate – just enough for what I needed.
- think that I moved just the right amount for my body.
- decide that nothing went wrong. I am at the perfect weight for me at this time.
- for sure decide that the tight shorts are not a problem.
From the place of peace, I can intentionally decide on how I want to move forward. I can decide to:
- get another pair of shorts that fit my current size, or
- stay right here and change nothing. I have other things to wear, and /or
- shift some habits so I can feel more comfortable, not just in the shorts, but in my body in general.
I often consult with Sage, my inner guidance, my inner coach, for the right decisions for me at the time.
I trust Sage. She’s the opposite of Margaret.
I know, I’ve got a whole crew in my head. You probably do, too!
Once Sage and I concur on what I want the outcome to be, we decide on a plan.
If I want to take some actions (get new shorts? change some habits? do nothing?), I will follow through as best I could, 88% perfectly.
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Who’s your inner critic?
Your inner guidance?
Who do you trust to make decisions?
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