I love food.
I love everything about food.
I like eating it, making it, talking about it, reading and photographing it.
I like watching people make food.
I like to be entertained by food, and use it as distractions.
I like to share food with people, especially the ones I love, as a way to connect.
I like that food makes me feel comforted, and nurtured.
I love that food makes me feel at home.
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I thought I had a good relationship with food because of all of these positive feelings I listed above. Until one day, I learned that food does not reciprocate feelings. It can not love me back.
Food is inanimate, and is only there to provide us fuel to stay alive.
Everything else about food depends on our thoughts about it: the feelings I have about food comes from the thoughts I have about food.
I reexamined my so called relationship with food and discovered that I spend an inordinate amount of time thinking, doing, eating, and playing with food.
I am not someone who needs to lose weight, but because I make food my go-to for so many things, it was consuming me, and creating an unhealthy relationship that was beginning to give me negative results.
Because I surrounded myself with it, I ended up eating mindlessly, spending time making more food that necessary, and thinking about it when I can be using the time to do something else more productive. I ended up with unwanted 5-10lbs my body did not need.
I began working with a coach who showed me that all I needed to do was changing my thoughts about food.
- It does not mean that I have to stop loving food.
- It does not mean that I have to stop eating the foods I love.
- It does not mean that I have to stop or enjoy cooking and sharing.
What I needed to do, if I want food to serve me positively, is to think about food differently.
- How do I want food to be part of my life?
- How do I want food to effect my mind and my body?
- How can my ‘love’ for food serve me?
It’s all up to me to decide: what role and responsibility will I assign to food?
I have settled with this: food is first and foremost fuel. I choose to eat foods that make me feel good physically. I love that some foods make me feel emotionally at home, and nurtured and will continue to enjoy eating, cooking, and sharing the foods that help me thrive – just enough.
How about you?
What is food to you, and how will it best serve you?