Truth: I don’t really know how to rest.
I don’t like to sleep in.
I don’t read for fun.
I hate playing games.
I don’t go on vacations without doing some work.
I often associate rest time with waste of time.
Most likely it’s because of these two beliefs I have.
- I don’t know how to relax.
- I feel better when I am productive.
Where I got these beliefs, I don’t know exactly.
They probably come from my upbringing, my culture, my family. They are not bad beliefs necessarily. They’ve driven me to be who I am and to where I am in life today. So, all in all, they are beliefs that have served me well.
BUT, with these same beliefs, I also end up lying to myself half the time.
Because… I actually do know how to relax: I make time to nap most days, I cook for fun, I go out with friends for the pure pleasure of connection. I get massages. I even play games…sometimes.
The problem around these beliefs occurs when I judge and punish myself.
That’s where the reframe can happen and where I want to put my attention this coming August.
- I do know how to relax and WANT to do just that.
- I feel good regardless of how productive I am.
August is going to be a month of intentional relaxation with or without productivity. What will it look like? I don’t know quite yet. It may look like:
- less work
- more reading for pleasure
- less social media
- more games (maybe?)
- less self judgment
- more gardening, strolling
- less thinking
- more feeling … connecting with my intuition
I promise I will live to tell the tales.
What about you?
How might you be lying to yourself and how can you reframe your beliefs?